Most people enter into relationships hoping for a loving, caring, mutually respectful union. For emotionally balanced couples with a health relationship dynamic, this outcome is possible with effort and good communication. However, it is a sad fact that many relationships become toxic as a result of the personal issues one or both partners bring to the relationship. These personal issues often prove damaging and destructive to the other partner, and can leave him or her feeling a sense of low self esteem and unworthiness. If the toxic partner is abusive, disrespectful, and hurtful, the abused partner may nevertheless struggle with leaving out of fears of not being able to make it alone or out of fear that this is what he or she deserves. The truth is, the toxic relationship environment frequently creates an unrealistic filter, and once free of it, self worth can begin to return and a more realistic picture of self and life can emerge. Here are 4 tips for moving on from a toxic relationship:
1. Take good care of yourself – prioritize yourself physically and emotionally. Eat healthy foods, and take vitamins and supplements as necessary. A naturopath can create a supplement plan that is tailored to your specific needs. Most people can benefit from the addition of fish oil and a food based multivitamin to start. Exercise regularly according to your doctor’s recommendations. Journal your feelings, and do small things for yourself daily that you enjoy.
2. Spend as much time as you can around positive friends and family members. It is important to reprogram the negative messages about yourself that you assimilated from your toxic partner and his or her actions and words, so listen to people who build you up. Spending time with your friends and family also helps fill your social calendar.
3. Avoid contact with the toxic ex. You need time to recover, grow stronger, and gain perspective. Your toxic ex is likely to continue to do and say the things that lowered your self esteem, so don’t expose yourself to it.
4. Get back in touch with your instincts. Become more conscious of your body’s responses to specific people and situations. Note when you feel anxious, agitated, or shamed around certain people, as well as when you feel peaceful and relaxed. Gravitate toward the things and people that give you positive reactions.