You recently met a really cute guy and can’t seem to stop thinking about him? Will he call you or will he not? What if he tried calling you but couldn’t reach you? What if he left a message on your machine… Anything is possible! Alright, so he does call you… Now what? You can’t possibly be thinking of going out to meet him with all your nerves so strung up can you? So calm down, there are a few basic things that women must and must never do on their first dates. Of course these rules will apply only if, that particular date is important for you in the long run. If not, the ball is still in your court ladies. If you want to create an impression that will leave him spell bound you’ve got to know, what is it that you’re looking out for and who you truly are as a women. A confident and graceful women, who knows what she wants is irresistible and this is a time tested fact. So here are 10 first date rules for women to follow, so as to ensure that their dates keep coming back for more.
There are no rules to this thing. All you need to do is to be yourself. Remember that he liked you the first time itself, and that’s why he asked you out. And if you’re the one who asked him out, it’s even better, and he knows your a confident women. Win win situation isn’t it? Let your speech and posture be subtle and well poised. Please try and prevent yourself from hunching or fiddling with your hair. These will be construed as signs of nervousness.
Dress According to the Venue
Let your dress define your personality, but do not let it go over board. If you are going to a not so upmarket place, like an outdoor cafe or restaurant, wear something semi formal. Such as a short dress with sandals or boots. If it’s a classy place, wear a long dress or a short cocktail dress. Do not wear dresses that will give him the wrong impression about you. That being either overtly eager to please, vamp like or ultra boring. Add on your own style statement so that it becomes, evident that you are your own person and that reflects in every thing you say and do.
Of course you smell good every time, but make special efforts to wear a especially nice perfume on all your dates. Let the perfume’s fragrance be according to the ambiance as well. If it’s a casual summer date, wear a perfume that has a fresh and fruity fragrance. If it’s a formal date, wear a strong and sensuous perfume. Though the entire point of smelling good is to keep him curious and interested.
Is He Even Worth It?
Notice if he is as punctual and well mannered as you are. These things are very important as they are bound to cause friction in later days if you two ever decide to take things further. Is he chivalrous, does he treat you with respect, is he attentive towards you and not easily distracted by other females in the vicinity? If so he is has passed the first test. If not consider treating this as your last date with this guy, please…
Talk About Fun Topics
We all want to be with people who we can have fun with. So bring out the lighter side of you’re personality, and tell him about the fun things you have been up to lately. Ask him about his favorite pass time and hobbies. See if you have common likings, such as music, partying, books, theater or enjoying junk food! (though only once in a while!) Share experiences about your trips to foreign lands or festivals and events you may participated in.
Observe and Report
No matter how good looking your date may actually be, don’t let your imagination run wild. Listen to him carefully, you may get important information through seemingly simple statements such as, “I don’t believe in marriage’, or ‘I love hanging out with kids’. These can shed further light into your date’s actual personality as well as his true intentions. Choose what suits you best and go according to your gut feeling. Another reason to observe him carefully is because you want him to know, that you are absolutely interested in getting to know him better. So it’s better to talk less and listen more, especially on the first date. It’s a convenient as well as a safe option because; just in case the guy turns out to be a creep, you would have shared minimal personal information about yourself!
Don’t let the guy feel like he is your replacement shrink. This is one of the most important dating rules for girls and women of all age groups. Therefore do not talk about your past troubles and traumas, on your first date with any man! They don’t know you well enough to care and honestly they are least interested. Do not talk about your ex-boyfriend, who you were in a serious relationship with. Let him ask you first, and then you can post pone this discussion may be for the 10 th meeting or something. Try not to be inquisitive about his past affairs either. Let him discuss these issues on his own, that too if he ever thinks they are important enough to be brought up.
Let Him Take the Bill
Let the guy take the bill on the first date. Unless of course there is an awkward moment. From then on you may choose to dutch the bill from the second date onwards. Don’t worry if the guy doesn’t respond for a second date because of money matters. He is just not worth it. So don’t waste your time, and move on to the next Mr. Right.
It’s Not a One Night Stand
Don’t let him think that the night has something more in store. All he should get is perhaps a sweet goodnight. You are not expected to give in to anything more even if you really want to. All that can wait for a later date, when you both know more about each other.
Let Him Call Back
Never call him after the first date. Instead wait for him to call you and thank you for a lovely evening. If he does not ask you out again, understand that he is not interested in you. So do not be persistent and do not ask him out instead. Move on girl, you have better things to do with your time. Also if he calls a bit too often, then perhaps you should consider ditching the idea of a second date. You don’t want to be stuck with a desperate man, now would you? Go for a man who is sane and fun if not the least.
So these were some of the basic first date rules for women. Though dating is all about having fun, still there is a very fine line, between being available and being easy. Either ways, it’s a matter of personal choice and that choice is only yours to make. So ladies step out in style and go get yourself a great date.